My name is Awil Jama. I am a social worker student at Eastern Michigan University going into my senior year.

I just want to share with you some food for thought I had. I am not a scholar or knowledgeable person like an imam (Spiritual Leader). I just like to inform other people of what is happening in our surroundings. I ponder a lot about current struggles and affairs that Muslims communities are faced with.

By now you might have noticed that this note is targeting towards marriage hence the title marriage or destruction. Marriage is vital to being a righteous Muslims brother and sister. It’s necessary for Muslim youth to get married before they can develop healthy marriages. Marriage is undoubtedly the toughest task decision men and women have to make in their lifetime. It is scary, unpredictable, and risky. Once you are commitment to a person for life – you are in it for the long run.
With that being said,  the problem I see in many Muslim communities is that the youth are not getting married early and they are the future of this ummah (Muslim nation) so they need to start planning for marriage before it’s too late. Many of them are focused on education and other important things like obtaining Islamic knowledge. Which is fine with me and other are focused on destructive things such as dating, clubbing, smoking and etc. This is most definitely not cool with me.

As youth we need to start taking life more serious and demanding marriage at the ages of 21 and 22 even as younger as 20 and 19. The only halal (permissible) way to combat the kuffair (disbeliever) lifestyle is for our youth to start getting married and developing healthy married life from an early on start. It’s in the best interest of the youth to begin having conversation with their parents’ about marriage as soon as possible while still in high school or the beginning of college life.

If you think you are ready for marriage please for your sake and parents sake have a meaningful conversation with your parents about marriage and start developing a course of plan for getting married. I have seen too many youth destroying their deen (religion) and self dignity because they did not get married and have a halal relationship with the opposite sex.
In America there are too many challenges that faces the youth – such as fornication and other acts that are very self destructive including masturbation. It all stems from not giving a healthy companionship with the opposite sex once again. The youth are at the stage where they need to physically, emotional and spiritual be with a soul mate in American terms aka find a wife or husband.

If Muslim communities and parents do not make it easy for the youth to get married at a reasonable age whether it is 19 or 22, there will be more destruction in the land and Islam will not flourish as it could. The youth will find unhalal (prohibited) means of love and companionship on their own and that could be hazards to their faith and thus their livelihood. So the youth and the parents need to become more serious and realistic about marriage. Please reflect and plan a course of action with your daughters and sons about marriage. It is time as Muslim we counterattack what the kuffir are soliciting and prompting us to do which are engaging in unislamic things such as dating and eventually indulging in fornication.
Let us be real Muslims and not 21th century wannabe kuffir Muslims. Thank you for reading my article and I hope it has benefited you in some means ways or the other.  Everything that is good about this article is from Allah (subhanallah wa taala) and the weak things are from me.

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